Encouragement vs. Praise: What’s the Difference?

Based on the Positive Discipline approach by Dr. Jane Nelsen

Hi, I’m Dr. Kristi Briscoe.

Praise sounds like: “You’re so smart!” Encouragement sounds like: “You worked hard, and it paid off.” ADHD kids need encouragement—because it helps them focus on effort, not
perfection.

Try this:

1. Describe what you saw — “You kept trying even when you got frustrated.”
2. Focus on progress — “You remembered your backpack today—great job!”
3. Avoid labels — Instead of “You’re the best reader,” say, “I love how you’re practicing.”
   

Encouragement builds internal motivation—and helps your child feel seen for who they are, not just what they produce.

This article is for educational purposes only and does not diagnose or treat any condition. Please seek help from a qualified mental health professional if you or a loved one is struggling.