5 Criteria for Effective Discipline (Jane Nelsen)

Based on the Positive Discipline approach by Dr. Jane Nelsen

Hi, I’m Dr. Kristi Briscoe.

Discipline means “to teach”—not “to punish.” These five criteria from Dr. Jane Nelsen can guide you when correcting your ADHD child:

• Is it kind and firm? Respectful, not harsh or passive.
• Does it teach life skills? Like problem-solving or emotional regulation.
• Does it strengthen the relationship? Discipline should connect, not divide.
• Is it effective long-term? Punishment may work once, but it rarely lasts.
• Does it help the child feel capable? ADHD kids need to believe they can do better.

You can set limits and still be loving. That’s what makes discipline effective.

This article is for educational purposes only and does not diagnose or treat any condition.
Please seek help from a qualified mental health professional if you or a loved one is struggling.