How to Talk About Effort (Not Just Outcomes)

Hi, I’m Dr. Kristi Briscoe.
When ADHD kids get praised only for big outcomes—like a good grade—they may tie their worth to performance. But effort deserves just as much attention.

Try this:

1. Name the invisible work — “I saw you double-check your answer.”
2. Ask reflective questions — “What part was hardest? What helped?”
3. Affirm persistence — “You didn’t give up. That really matters.”
   

Over time, your words become their inner voice.

This article is for educational purposes only and does not diagnose or treat any condition. Please seek help from a qualified mental health professional if you or a loved one is struggling.